posted on: June 7, 2018
author: Brian Lomax
There isn’t a competitor on the planet who doesn’t have doubts sometimes. It’s natural and it’s human. Many of the athletes I work with are really good at what they do. They’ve experienced a lot of success, yet almost all of them have crises in confidence from time to time. None of us are perfect, and that’s why working on the skill of confidence is so important. It’s a key ingredient in a successful performance.
Most athletes derive their confidence from winning and losing. That’s understandable as we live in a results-oriented world. However, there are other sources of confidence you can tap into, and that’s what I want to review. Reviewing these other sources can give you a more balanced view of what is really happening with your game.
When you finish a match or a practice, what do you think of first? The things that went wrong and the things that you could improve? It’s likely that you think of the negative aspects of your performance first, and that can have a negative effect on your confidence. You may be so focused on what you did wrong that you never actually get around to reviewing what you did well. And I can guarantee you that you did some things well, it’s just a matter of looking for them.
The fact is that we don’t give ourselves enough credit for the good stuff in our performances. Because of that, we are missing an opportunity to improve our confidence. This is why I want you to consider starting a Confidence Journal. It’s quite similar to a Gratitude Journal, but instead of looking for things that make you feel grateful, you are going to review your daily performances and write down 3 things that you did well.
When considering what you did well, think about your sport specific skills, other physical skills, mental skills, emotional skills, motivation, preparation, and your character and sportsmanship. You don’t have to limit yourself to 3 things, but you need to list at least 3. This sounds simple, but it is very powerful.
Do this every day that you play, and you’ll notice that your perspective on practices and performances will begin to change. You’ll start noticing the good parts more and more easily, and you’ll realize that you are improving. Recognizing progress and recognizing that you’re good at what you do will help you build lasting confidence. That’s something to get pumped up about.
Brian Lomax founded PerformanceXtra™ in 2009 with a mission of helping athletes achieve their goals and their top performances more consistently through a progression of mental skills that enables them to focus on what is truly important.
Learn more about the author: https://performancextra.com/brian-lomax/