Archive: Staying Positive


The Necessity of Surrender for Growth

June 18, 2020

The pursuit of mastery requires many things, but one of the most important is surrender, specifically, the necessity and willingness to surrender. It may sound strange, but surrender is actually necessary for victory. Now, this may be an unintuitive thought, but keep in mind what kind of surrendering we’re actually talking about. We don’t mean […]

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Children at play

Why Play is Necessary and Good for Humankind

April 29, 2020

Have you ever wondered just why it feels so good to participate in sport and competition?  Besides being so fun and all. Well, it unsurprisingly has a lot to do with play. See, play, for all intents and purposes, is just awesome all around.  It’s enjoyable, it’s liberating, it takes us outside the ‘ordinary’ world for just […]

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Athletes on a field in their own pursuit of mastery

The Pursuit of Mastery: The Key to Happiness

April 1, 2020

In this article, I’d like to address a thought many amateur athletes may have from time to time. That is what I’d like to call the “it-doesn’t-really-matter” thought. You might know just the thing I’m talking about.  This is that rather seductive feeling that emerges when you’re really pushing yourself during your training sessions or […]

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Developing Coping Skills Through PERMA

March 25, 2020

Living during a global pandemic certainly presents its share of challenges and stressors.  How are you holding up?  Admittedly, it’s not easy to be plucked out of our normal lives and placed into lockdown.  We are all having to get used to different ways of doing things and taking care of ourselves.  And you may […]

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The most important point

The Most Important Point

March 28, 2019

Note: Even though this post is written from the perspective of tennis, it applies to any sport in which the action can be broken down to the next play, the next pitch, the next possession, the next 1-on1 battle, the next move, the next moment, the next whatever. It’s always about what comes next. When […]

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Savoring Life – 50 for 50 Idea #49

December 31, 2018

As 2018 winds down, it’s time to look ahead to 2019 and ways to make it a great year. Would you like to be happier in 2019? Of course, you would. So in the final 50 for 50 blog post of 2018, I want to share with you an evidence-based way of increasing your happiness […]

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Daily Inspirational Quotes – 50 for 50 Idea #31

September 21, 2018

Everyone loves an profound or inspirational quote, so let me begin with one of my favorites. “People need to be reminded more often than they need to be instructed.” -Samuel Johnson, English Author & Critic (1709-1784) That quote could probably be a blog post on its own, but I decided to use it here because […]

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50 for 50 Idea #20: Plan a trip to play your sport

May 18, 2018

Whenever I travel, I like to pack my tennis racquets. In the last 20 years, I have been fortunate enough to visit many places in the United States as well as other countries. Of course, some of these trips have been for tennis competitions such as national tournaments and team events, so having my racquets […]

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“Be Quiet!!!” – Develop a Mindset to Deal with Noise

June 2, 2015

Ever find yourself wishing that someone would just be quiet while you’re performing? Recently, several people have asked me about how tennis players can deal more effectively with crowds or an unruly spectator so that performance is not affected in a negative way. In most sports, crowd noise tends to be less of a distraction […]

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4 reasons not to get angry when you compete

April 10, 2015

As a young tennis player, I had a bad temper. I didn’t like making mistakes. I didn’t like losing points. The root of my anger wasn’t a lack of emotional control, but rather because my thoughts were fixated on those mistakes and lost points, and that frustrated me greatly. If only I could be perfect […]

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What is your definition of success?

February 3, 2015

This past weekend, I spoke to a group of dressage instructors/trainers at an educational conference in CT, and my topic was “How to be a Positive Coach.” While I don’t have much “street cred” in the horse world, I do have a good bit of experience and knowledge on coaching styles in both sports and […]

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3 Things to Do When You’re Trying to Impress Your Coach

February 14, 2014

It’s that time of the year in high school and college when practice for Spring sports is getting ready to start or has perhaps even just begun.  It can be a nerve wracking time for some.  There may be uncertainty as to whether you’ll play or where you might be in the lineup, and your […]

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4 Things to Consider When Facing a Superior Opponent

February 4, 2014

There are times in competition in which we face opponents who are better than we are.  They may have a better record than us or perhaps they have more achievements.  Regardless, that’s not nearly as important as how we react to the challenge of facing this opponent.  In this type of matchup, our mental attitude […]

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Mental Toughness and Being More Positive

May 25, 2013

One of the fundamental aspects of the PerformanceXtra program is to be more positive in competition, in your training and in your life in general as this has been proven to be a determinant for success.  To most people, that sounds fairly logical.  However, there is a lot of literature that misrepresents what being positive […]

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Mental Toughness – A Formula for Success

April 13, 2013

Want a formula for being a successful athlete?  Try this. Optimism * (Persistence + Resilience) = Success To understand this formula more completely, let’s define our terms starting with Persistence and Resilience as they are the base elements in the equation.  Persistence is the ability to sustain effort throughout a performance.  We often see this […]

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